Yes, you really can Ask Me Anything 🙂

Launching Dear Cindy

Hello darling, 

Ever since the day I launched MakeLoveNotPorn with this TED talk 14 years ago, my email inbox has been flooded.

Back then, nobody else had publicly identified that when we don’t talk openly and honestly about sex, porn becomes sex education by default, and my honesty on the TED stage born of my experience dating younger men opened the floodgates.

In the years since, the rest of the world has become much more familiar with the issue for which MakeLoveNotPorn - ‘Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.’ - is the solution. But in amongst the many emails we get at MakeLoveNotPorn every day telling us how we’ve changed people’s lives, one theme continues: people write to ask for advice.

And over the years, no matter how much I’ve been up to my eyeballs in #startupstress, I’ve responded.

Because I can’t ignore emails like the one years ago from the teenage boy who wrote, ‘I’m having sex with my girlfriend. I want to know how to make love not porn. Please tell me, because my parents sure won’t.’ You bet I replied to that one - at some length. He subsequently emailed to say that his pleasantly surprised girlfriend had said, “Where did you learn THAT from?” 😂

Today, in addition to the emails asking for sex and relationships advice that come via MakeLoveNotPorn, I get many emails and social media messages asking me all sorts of things - from queries about where I bought something I’m wearing in photos, to how to feel better about ageing, to how to make the perfect martini. I get so many of these I’m simply not able to reply to them all, much though I’d love to - so I thought I’d try something new.

Today, appropriately on my 63rd birthday, February 1 2023, I’m offering you the opportunity to Ask Me Anything 🙂  

Sign up, subscribe, and send your question to dearcindy@substack.com - or reply directly to these emails.  Check your email each Monday, when I’ll answer a different question. Hopefully, my answers will be of interest and help many of you beyond the original questioner.

I’m looking forward to reading and answering your questions!

Love, Cindy

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